Key habit #1: Radical Honesty

To overcome depression and the likes and to just live a better life you will have to be radically honest with a few people. It’s going to be hard, it’s heartbreaking at times and heartwarming at others. You can’t overcome any negative feelings while hiding out in your sorrow cave while watching porn or series non-stop and then when you finally see some sunlight pretend that you are okay.

Newsflash: this doesn’t work people. I know because I tried it.

I don’t want you to go spill your problems out to all of the neighboorhood or the next best stranger. Not even aquintances should know your deepest secrets. But at least one person should know them, a therapist or a best friend. Depression means you’re keeping it in too much and for too long. Go for it, be vulnerable. Tell them what you are most afraid of, even if it is a weird phobia. It will make you feel lighter, it will open your perspective and you’ll probably even laugh about yourself.

Also in general with people, just tell them what you think. Sometimes drop a bomb and say: yeah I’m akward sometimes, I’m a weird dude or girl and I’m proud of it. Just smash the “perfect” little audience and drop that you’ve been feeling a bit unwell. You’re “perfect” family will probably look at you and think: “What, can someone feel unwell on planet earth???”.

If you like this topic, go read the book Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton.

Try it guys, dare to be a human. Let me know how it went or what awesome situations you created.

The clash of my life

Who am I and what am I going to do exactly?

I’m a 21 year old male who’s native language is not english so if I make mistakes please forgive me, and correct me. This blog is also meant as a way to improve my writing skills. P.T. is just a pen name so it is not my real name. I’m going to warn you I am not going to be spreading negativity, there are enough forums out there where depressed people cry together about how nobody understands them. I know that’s how it feels but that’s not going to get us anywhere. I will go about it very solution-oriented. I’m at a point where I’m going to go all out against depression, literally do or die mentality. I’m not cured completely. I will not claim that I will cure you. I do know I will make you better. This blog is a journey, a discription of a fight, a tool to connect to like-minded people who are tired, tired of not being on top of their own damn mind.

You might ask yourself where I am at at this point in my life and who this guy is who claims he will make a raging bull of you. I’m in a very exciting and scary place at the same time. I am literally the strongest I ever been but I’m still sometimes in a very dark mental space which is confusing. It’s like there is two sides to me, one pulling me towards expansion and evolution, the other wanting to stay safe and depressed.

I decided to make this blog because I want to share my gift with the world. What is my gift exactly? It is that I understand depression, obsession, anxiety better then anyone .This blog will help people stop the destruction from within. I must say this is an extremely good motivational tool for me because it’s not just about me anymore. I’m going to change lives, I’m going to inspire people so I’m double as motivated as I’d normally be. I’m going to the gym for you guys who read this blog, I’m meditating to share my experience with you guys, I’m breaking down social anxiety so I can share how I did it.

I can already  throw a huge tip at you, start something which is bigger than you, depression is self-centeredness, you are so focused on your negative mind that literally nothing else comes in. So throw yourseles in a journey where people depend on you.

YOU ARE MY REASON TO BREAK THIS CAGE.

You want to break free too? Stay tuned.